I guess me and Daisy dont want to just cheerlead, and its not all about DBign (and you guys are still M, in the same house and not broken up) but for ages now, there are things that you say that just dont sit comfortably. It points to some emotional problems in him, is what we are saying.. but you seem to thikn alot of the blame is still at your door. Sounds like you were perhaps a little bit thoughtless in the M before then.. refusing to help with housework, ignoring his compaints, making him move countries/jobs when he didnt want to! So its great you are learning to negotiate better and put your needs aside sometimes in favour of his.
I am glad you are not a doormat and yes, so he did alot of cleaning... but to NEVER cook dinner in 7 years !?? Not even as a treat? Or when you were tired? Thats a bit rough! Why dont you let him cook, or ask if he wants to, who knows, he might like it! Afterall, he asked you to clean up.. so now you cook AND clean up. That doesnt found too fair!? He'd probs order take out though hey.
I still worry about some of the comments he makes about lone wolf stuff and 'lets see'... I hope he doesnt spring something on you again. I'm not sure what the advice is in this case, its like you are hanging there, with the scent of another bomb in the air, but not working towards recommitment yet (as he said he would try didnt he?) so it must be a little stressful for you.
BUT .. you have made it this far and astrologically, I think that is a good thing!
Love Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
