Not once in the entire time they sat there did he validate her words - instead he tried to out-maneuver her with his "wit and wisdom." It was strange how much he seemed to think that sounding smart was what would win her over - and that telling her what she thought and felt would somehow make her see things his way...and it was also painful to realize that I used to do the exact same thing...
h was doing this exact thing to me last night. Drives me nuts.
I asked him playfully what he was doing a la "whatcha doin'?" (he was reading a book - he hardly ever reads a book). He said 'reading'. I sighed on the inside adn continued with the playfulness "whatcha readin'?". He said 'a book'. It's like I have to pry every tiny bit of information out of him.
This is after he picked d7 up for me from her friends place so I had been able to go to water polo training. Apparently d7 and her friend A, were being silly and d7 wouldn't leave when it was time to go. They've got this annoying habit of clutching onto each other and saying nononono... and carrying on stupid. Anyway, I dare say h isn't used to this behaviour - when I see it I just say stuff like "Oh well, I guess A won't be coming over tomorrow then if you're not going to let go and come home right now". That soon gets her moving. But oh no....h had to rouse on her so she was busily trying not to get in more trouble when she got home. Then he growled at her for taking what he thought was too long to brush her teeth. I said disbelievingly, 'she's brushing her teeth!' (ie it's good that she's brushing them for a long time - and mind you we are not talking extravagant amounts of time here). He (surprisingly) grunted, "fair enough" and then went to the lounge room where he got all growly about bits of glitter left on the couch from d7 playing with her makeup the other day. She had made a mess with the glitter, she had already gotten into trouble from me and I made her clean it up by using the sticky side of masking tape to pick it up. He carried on a bit about it and then said something like "if she can't use make up properly then she won't be using it at all". *roll eyes* She's 7! It's play makeup. How would she possibly know how to 'use it properly'. Control freak. bah....
sorry venting
** Purple
As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe
