well went to atty today with some questions. I really felt more confident after I left. I think I will be in better shape than I initially thought I was. Atty. suggested I get PI for fault D. I told her that I was still interested in reconciling with H and did not want to file unless he filed first.
What my H thought he was going to be entitled to (by coaching from OW), is probably not going to happen. Atty also said that the reason he was probably jacking up his credit cards was because he thought I would have to pay half. Since most of the charges are for hotel rooms, gifts for Ow etc. all we have to do is show those bills and about 80% of that will be deducted.

I still can't believe this is happening and that I have gone for legal advice. Still shaking my head.

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09