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[Jayce]

Hi, C,

Sorry I misspelled Homunculus. Since you're still at loose ends for awhile, hit the library and get the Sex on the Brain book. There are some amazing things about how male & female brains are wired differently. I mentioned this to Bagheera earlier this evening. So much of our inability to communicate well with each other is driven by the mutual misunderstanding that we should think alike. We don't. We can't. Part of it has been reassuring. We talk, you don't. When H is silent, I'm often thinking he's not in a good mood, mulling over negative things about me or our last conversation, maybe sulking. Revelation: he's probably not thinking about anything.

One of the strategies in the Getting Through to the Man you Love" book is "do something different" An example was a couple similar to you two. Michelle's suggestion was for the wife to do all the initiating for sex. The H was very skeptical. VERY. First week, nothing. Second week twice. After that, they were together 2-3 times a week. Taking away the pressure & giving her the reins allowed her to get back in touch w/her own sexuality, desire.

I got invited to have fun in the afternoon again Sunday! Two weeks in a row that I've felt he's actually getting into it for his own enjoyment instead of just trying to keep me from flipping out. Maybe we'll get to twice a week one of these days. The main thing I'm thinking is that in a couple months it'll wind down to nothing again if we (I) don't keep it a priority. If nothing else motivates him, the fact that I'm a lot easier to get along with if we ML regularly oughta do the trick. LOL

Time to quit. Still freezing in here. Haven't moved the furniture around yet. Hang tough.
J