I am so grateful for all of ya'll. Everyday is just a cornucopia of emotions. First, I am grateful ya'll advised me from confronting him again, until now. Otherwise I would not have the additional incriminating evidence. Second, this is so hard because I truly never imagined being in the shoes I am in. Michelle, thank you. I guess I knew that there were only two options available and it is his choice. But I am so good at denial!!! I know that things are going to get much worse before they get any better. I feel like I have been shot and left for dead, yet I still breathe. Sure hope the prozac kicks in soon...
This is my strategy. I am writing a letter. It is non-threatening and not malicious. It states that I know about his other life. I will not tell him how I know or how much I know. I will tell him I am getting tested for STD's and suggest he do the same. I will tell him that it is mindboggling how he juggles his other life, work life and this life. I will tell him that he has made choices that now require him to choose his other life or to rebuild the marriage. I will tell him I cannot pretend he does not have another life and that I will not tolerate it. I will tell him if he chooses the other life, so be it. I will tell him if he chooses to rebuild there are non-negotiable conditions, I won't specify the conditions at this time. I have to write a letter instead of verbally confronting him because I need to be succinct and not overly emotional. I need to say the key points and not deviate. My plan is to give it to him this evening, watch him read it and then see what develops. What are your thoughts? I'll take contructive ideas and lots of support. Gosh, I hope there are no more shoes to drop. Thanks, thanks, thanks, thanks.
[This message has been edited by mare (edited 04-27-99).]
[This message has been edited by mare (edited 04-27-99).]
