How to know when to let go PT2????

[Sophie]

Kristi,

I'm sorry to jump in at possibly the wrong time but...I hear myself in your words, your feelings, your frustration....your impatience.

You cannot decide anything of value when you are so upset, angry, hurt, agitated, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc....


You and your H are pushing each others buttons so rapidly it's like gunfire when Desert Storm started.

Just stop....it feels like hell doesn't it???

Get out of the fire pit!!!

Let go of everything. Don't do anything, or say anything more while you are so emotionally entangled!

It's hard to 'get'...but, don't say anything more until you are in a completly....completly differnt place. Just put up the STEEL CURTAIN and be a STUBBORN donkey and don't let down.

Your H says so many things just because they come out of his mouth at the time. WORDs WORDs WORDs...mean NOTHING!!

You may stress over each word, believe in each word, make decisions based on each word he says. And, in a month...he'll tell you either he never said such things...or, 'well, stupid things are said in an angry discussion'. And he blows it all off. This happened EVERY SINGLE time my H and I had arguments like you've had this week.

This is why you have to detach from his MIND. His MIND is crazy and makes NO SENSE.

Stop believing your H....and believe what people tell you here. I am not a good enough writer to explain this well enough...but, I have learned a lot from your listeners/readers. Your listeners/readers have reinforced the efforts I have made to detach.

It took me WAY over 18 months to truly feel detached....detached enough to then....LET GO.

You are going through the emotions and steps needed to get to that place.

I see 'that place' as OUT OF the SH*T PIT your H is in.

Your H stinks right now. Let him stink alone!!


Your H feels SO much better when you are right there with him...yelling, arguing, screaming....blah, blah, blah.

Your H feels better when you are being like him!

Your H right now.... is UGLY. DON'T be like him!!