Your H is feeling major 'me-crud'. That's why he can't communicate the way an adult should about..via phone or in person.
He can't face you. That should tell you something about his guilty conscience.
Of course he'd rather deal with your D than you! He knows he can manipulate her at her age. He knows he's in the wrong and doesn't have the self-esteem or self-respect to face you.
I'm sorry that you're having to go through this vague communication with him. It finally got to the point with me that I told my L that if my xh needed to know something during the divorce, he (my L) could communicate it through Hs L. It did no good for me to try to talk sensibly with him when it was about things he didn't want to have to deal with or accept.
Do what you have to do to keep things on an even keel for you and your D.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Don't worry--I'm just overwhelmed in a major way. D12 has strep throat, there are new layers of grief unpeeling almost daily, work has been busy. There was a court date scheduled for tomorrow, but we were able to settle the preliminaries out of court. Visitation won't change significantly, I'll get $100/week support. It's not great, but my L advised it might be wise to accept that and move forward, in order to avoid a bunch of court costs and etc. The amount we'd asked for was $125/week, so it didn't seem worth running up several hundred dollars extra in court costs for that amount.
There has to be a point at which life gets a little less burdensome, right? I know, I've been at this about 7 months and this is still fairly early. But I'm just depleted.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
