I'm still conflicted; I want to ask W what 2 weekends she wants the kids each month (this will cut into her party time) but it will allow me some free time to get stuff done or go out every now and then or do I just hire a babysitter and let her take them when she wants ?? (once every month)
The responses I received are to set scheduled weekends for her to take the kids. But is this fair to the kids ? , It's just harder on the kids being shuffled back and forth, they are confined to an apartment where you cannot run and have fun (be kids). All they do over there is watch TV or go shopping. They don't get home cooked meals, they go out to eat (according to what the kids tell me).
I feel bad even thinking of making her take the kids, she should want them.
PROS I would like some free time to myself I don't want to be tied to her schedule of when she can or cannot take the kids
CONS * I love them and want them with me * Its harder on the kids being shuffled back and forth * I can always hire a babysitter (offsets #1 under PROS) * Stuff I need to get done around the house can wait * I don't want her taking the kids (because of the schedule)and then hiring a babysitter because she has something planned. * I don't want them around OM (they haven't yet been exposed to him yet)
I guess I will not schedule weekends for her to take the kids and see how it goes for now.
Merry Christmas everyone
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 0.2
