It seems to me in remembering J210 and Kerry's situations that theirs only turned when they left her behind.....didnt matter what they did to them anymore, they just went about their business.
I believe I tried this over the summer. I totally left her alone. I havent been contacter her at all. But one thing I have done consistently is rode a hard bargain. I have always wanted her to realize or experience the consequences of being divorced just because she always believed it would be perfectly rosy for everyone involved. 'the kids will be fine', 'so and so's divorced worked out great', etc....
She is all over the place. Sometimes she's nice, apologetic. Sometimes she's attacking, mean, angry, temper, etc. Last night I saw this version of her. I think it's a reaction to me bringing up that she has admitted making a mistake.
Regardless...I think right now this is my plan. Focus on myself. However, sometime next week I am going to drop off that book at her house. I'm going to tell her I know she has been looking all over town for what to give me for xmas. And I'm going to tell her the present is for me is for her to read this book. I will be very nice about it. You guys are going to slash me up with swords over this I'm sure...but, I have my kids all next week, then she's taking them to maui the week after. maybe she'll read the book while she's there. I think I'll wrap it in a book cover so she'll feel comfortable reading the book without anyone noticing. Youre going to say this isnt focusing on myself. I have tried so hard to do this over the summer. I got nowhere with her. It may be that she is so far gone and determined, it doesnt matter what I do. But, I think she showed a crack in her armor by telling me she made a mistake and doesnt really know what to do. I think she showed a crack in criticizing my behavior. How I pry open that crack is the mystery.
