1)SHE is doing the pursuing now. I really do think that part of her is wanting and expecting you to say to her "I don't want this divorce, so I am not paying for anything" (I wouldn't fall for that trap. Many times women will say things like she is HOPING you will tell them what they want to hear) You are getting tested here.
2) She is now asking YOU for what YOU want. For what you will do. For what day is good for YOU. She thinks she is controlling this whole situation (which is what she says she wants) but in reality YOU are. You have it pushed back until after the 1st of the year. She is giving YOU the choice of whether you go together or separate. She is giving you the choice of helping you pay this.
3)She is paying for the sitter.
Funny thing is that you have basically stood your ground and have not budged an inch. She thinks this is in her control. It isn't.
You have a golden opportunity here to "banter" (women love to banter and flirt with men who they have fun with) back and forth with her over these very issues. I keep telling you to USE YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR. You CAN email her back and forth. Use your humor to duck and dodge (remember that concept?) Just don't let her nail you down to any conditions you don't want.
For example: "Woops. I just got your last 20 (exaggerate) emails about me helping to pay for the divorce. Ok. How does $20 sound to you?" That should cover my half.
or
"woops, I just got your last 20 emails regarding me helping you to pay for the divorce. I'll give you gas money and you drive. Will that work for you?"
And we already know she will respond to that. Just keep responding (never quickly) and duck and dodge and banter.
Your only other option is to agree to pay or tell her that you are NOT paying (which you won't in the end).. No need to tell her that now. String her along. We want her to have to go to her "friend" for the money because it is apparent she doesn't have it and won't have it by then. It will put more stress on their little affair. The more stress on them and the less on you, the better.....
Remember though. No relationship or sexual talk. Let her lead in that area.
She is testing you here. You MUST pass this test. It is ok to email back and forth as long as you never ever put pressure on her to come back or to stop what she is doing. Nope. Not one bit of controlling from you, nosiree.... LOL
