Garry, if W wants to move back definitely should have conditions.

Agree with PD. Has to go to MC/IC and work on issues.

NC with OP.

Continue to act detached and work on yourself. Since your W complaint was that you would not give her space, it seems that you are having better results with the detachment.
baby steps...

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09