This is pretty long because it covers 8 days. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Tuesday 12-2
my S10's cute soccer coach tm'd me. CC(cute coach) asked if I'd like to get together for lunch to discuss stuff I am going through with the D papers. (Remember, I told Cc what happened and he said the L I picked was good, because it is the L his wife used in his D)
I said 'sure'...lunch would be nice.
CC: how about Friday? Me: normally Friay would be great, but this Friday (12-5) is s14 birthday day lunch with me. How about next week, Thurs. or Fri? CC: Awesome. Sounds like a plan:)
This was early last week.
I like CC. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Friday 12-5
s13 and I spent our traditional 'stay home from school with mom for bday' together.
As I predicted, H tm'd us that day, the day before s13's bday to ask me what we were doing.
H has done this every bday, holiday since he moved out. Waits until the day before or the day of an event and then checks to see what I have organized and planned. If I am in a 'who cares' frame of mind...H joins us. If I get perturbed...H gets angry.
I have been in a 'who cares' frame of mind for months now. I just don't care if H comes or not.
Friday tm's from H
H; were you able to get everything you wanted for s13? I'm doing more shopping after work. Just wondering, k
L: I couldn't get the bike. I thought that would be good for both boys at xmas. Your thoughts?
H: bikes sound good for xmas. Maybe you could call me when you are done.
L: k
I called H when I got home and settled. Had a good conversation about gifts and s13's bday on Sat.
H called later from a store asking my opinion on a gift. H hasn't done that since he moved out. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Saturday 12-6-08
S13 14th bday....so now, he is s14
s10 had a soccer game. I was looking forward to seeing CC.
Earlier in the morning MIL calls s14 to say happy bday.
Then, she talks to me about getting together to take my kids and her other two grandkids to PA for a Christmas play on 12-29. It's everyone's xmas present. I suggested she talk to H about it. She planned this event on a work day. H and his sister cannot go because they are working. It would be only me, MIL, FIL, my 3 kids, and the 2 cousins.
This bugs me. I am having a really hard time with H's family pretending either H does not exist AND our situation does NOT exist. I can see why H has ISSUES!!
anyway....
H was late to the game...showed up when it was over. CC and I shared a look...like 'what the heck?' (I think another soccer mom has her sights on CC)
I was a little stressed over all the confusion at the game...and the ignorance of H's family.
H picked up on it and asked me if I was stressed or tired. I said...no, it was just a bad game (It was, s10 played his worse)
s10 and d8 rode with H. H said he had to make one stop.
H asked s10 and s8 'Is mom stressed out?"
D8 said, 'probably from work'
H: well I'm going to buy her some wine.
We ended up having a great family day for s14's bday...played football, ate out, came home and played football with the kids in the living room. I was the one playing and tackling the boys...finally H started to play and the kids told me to tackle him. NOPE!! A couple times I leaned into him, but 'can't touch that!'
Like crazy people, we played this little football game until 1am!! H left around 2am. s10 kept asking him to spend the night. H said to me, 'I'm gonna go just because I want to sleep in my own bed, because of my back. I'll be back tomorrow...let's go watch the steeler game at the restaurant'. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Sunday12-7
H comes back to MY house around 2pm....(after staying up so late...it was a very slow day)
H played football in the backyard with s14,s10 and s14's friend.
We all watched the steeler game here, s10 and I went to the store for snacks.
H is extremely comfortable here. It makes NO SENSE why he can't live here.
H stayed through dinner, until 9pm and went home. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Monday 12-8
