Same with me,problem I think is we try to analyze anything they do to the detail and it eas us up and then we let our emotions take over next thing we know we say or do something stupid. Only thin works for me is if I dont snoop on what she does or stay occupied with kids and it works its hard but Puppy is helping me out here and I am doing it right now. Can you give me some advice on my latest if you got a little time