Garry, thanks. I am not originally from Tx and it is much different here. If H wants a D I already told him I was charging him with Adultery. I have all of his business phone records showing the increase of phone calls to OW when it started and calling her at night and weekends on her cell phone. H got a secret cell phone in August so I do not have access to it.
I do have an e-mail that someone sent to me anomy. saying my H was having an A and giving me dates and description of a drunken night at a nightclub.
I do not want this but I have to make sure I do not lose everything because of his actions.

I appreciate all the advice from you.

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09