I am glad your are safe. Please don't let your guard down. Why do you feel horrible for your daughter? You did not do this. Your job is to protect yourd aughter and no way in hell would i let him see her even at his parents house.
I would make it were a social worker had to present. WE had to impliment that with my sister, and she had to pay for it out of her pocket.(she is the crazy one)
Did I ever "think" she would hurt her kids? No But we as a family decided we couldn't live with an "I think". We just needed to know the kids were safe and at that point in my sisters life it was a gamble. That was years ago and she has since proved that she is safe after many drug therapies and counseling. She was in a bad place at that point in her life and right now that's were your husband is too. Stay strong for daughter and prepare yourself for a lot of pressure from those that you love to drop it or let it go.
Why should he get a warning? Isn't that what he was giving you?
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too