BG, I haven't posted to you and haven't read all of your story...but most of it.
Has he had a paternity test? Her using her son to control him can be easily fixed by taking her to court and getting custody/visitation worked out.
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so now i feel guilty really guilty about EVEN TRYING to save this marriage.
This is YOUR marriage. You owe OW nothing. She chose to get involved with a married man.
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BUT i am not handling the guilt of knowing how bad H wants real time with the son, and she wont let him have him, because he is here, not there. what is better for his son?
If H wants real time with his son then he should do it legally. If he really is the father then she HAS to let him have time. He shouldn't let her use his son to manipulate him.
