she's out and has announced OM to all

[Little Engine]

mC--Just checking in. Take what Mike posted here to heart. Forgiving yourself is the first step, finding the good in your W helps to forgive her and also makes it easier for you to overlook the horrible stuff she is doing to you. You are doing great, be proud of yourself. Nice work on talking to sologirl20something in the bar you sly dog! Keep the close ties with W's family, loving them also helps you to overlook what W is doing. Going to try and go walk before the sunsets!

LE

[marriedCrazy]

The W came over tonight to help with some financial work we need to accomplish before D. After we were at a stopping point, I mentioned that I needed to go to the store. She asked me if I had that $50 for half of the toy she purchased for our D. I asked her to see the toy; she showed me the receipt. I asked where was the toy; she replied that it was over at OM's house. I asked her to bring it here on Wed. I don't want it over there. That really set me off.

So I left to go to the store; only I decided to go out for dinner and a couple of beers. Talked with a friend of mine while I was out. 2 hours later, W sends me a text, Where R U? I didn't respond for 20 minutes. Finally, I replied that I was on the way home. Her response was be careful.

I get home at 10:30pm and the kids are still up. She made no attempt to get them in the bed. She then asks me "Where have you been?" I didn't answer. So within 5 min. she's up and outta here.

Good evening, made her sweat a little. Tired of being tied to her whims.

[JeffSTL]

Good for you MC, "Tired of being tied to her whims"

I know what you mean, we are the responsible ones, we are the ones who think of family first, we will put aside things we want to do to take care of the kids or stuff around the house, but every now and then, its our turn. Not all the time, just every now and then. Our W's on the other hand are thinking of number one and its not us or the kids.

I see so much of my situation in yours, how did we get into this mess. Only good thing we got out of this are the kids.

M45
W41
M10.75 years
D9, D7, D7, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
W files for D 07/18/08

[Nasmat]

Hi, MC!

Ah, the financial stuff. I swear, those talks are worse than the R talks. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that tonight. I think you did a great job with handling the toy issue. You're a really kind person to be open to give her $25 for half a toy for her own D - a toy at her OM's house at that.

I'm so glad that you got to go out and have some dinner with your friend. It really does help to get away from it all even if all you talk about is the whole rotten sitch (I find myself doing that and really have to clamp my mouth shut).

Glad you made her sweat. It's amazing how being unavailable really kills them.

Stay strong,a nd God bless you. I'll remember you in my prayers.

~Nas

[Molly44]

well done. Great Dbing ( even if your not )

She has a lot of contact with you really. How great can OM be ! At least you know by her own self behavior that it is only a matter of time, before she is off looking for new guy.

You must have to be careful with kids. you don't know who she is introducing them to . or putting them in harms way. Do you have sole custody legally ?

[ernest88]

WOW Mike, that needs to be stickied somewhere..

thanks.

thanks for that..I pull one out of thin air occasionally..

[Tawnya]

{{{Tom}}} Good for you Mr Detachment I hope you are having a great day!

Tawnya

[Babygirl]

hey tom, checking in on you and the kiddos, so sorry i have been mia, my head hasnt been able to process my life, so reading about my friends suffering, just adds to my anger at stupid people who are selfish and uncaring about what they do to thier families, sooooooooo i had to stay away.

you are doing great my friend, thinking of you and yours, sending lots of prayers and love too.

[carpenter54]

Babygirl

Good to know sometimes other people feel the same way!!
Some days I can't come on here and post.....

[Babygirl]

lol carpenter, was afraid i would get smacked for that comment. when i care about people, its so hard to see them get hurt and crapped on for someones selfish crap lol!!

soooooooooo had to if i didnt have anything nice to say theory!!