I can see why you're connfused. I guess I'm just ready to continue Plan B.
I filed in April, we had a September date, but I was doing Plan A, and asked for an extension. In the meantime, found out he's still in the A. This has gone on for two years, and I guess I'm just ready to drop the rope entirely.
It's my second marriage, he's not the father of my kids. You can only go on for so long, and each person had to decide when to let go for themselves.
Sorry to confuse you, I was just curious about the coaching since I never tried it. I'll also read the book, even though we're splitting up, this experience has had a profound affect on me, and I like reading materials related to it.