It looks like conflict is returning. She is pushing me again to switch jobs to make more money. She keeps saying that it's my responsibility to make sure that her material needs are met--vacations, cars, beauty salons. Any limitations in her mind indicate a failure with my role as spouse.
I'm remembering from my conflict management book, the importance of balancing self-care and care for others. I think switching jobs just to pacify her would be a threat to my self-worth.
The problems to be solved are increasing physical intimacy, and saving for vacation and she wants a back-up car.
I'm frustrated with the situation, and am wrestling with my emotions and trying to stay balanced and committed. I fell asleep in the guest room last night, after hearing her comments about my failures.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
