I see what you are saying, but how do you balance that with being a responsible person?
In my situation, my #1 goal is to get primary care of my S. I can't be out at the bars, partying w/ women, and being irresponsible.... and I wouldn't want to be unless I could see instant success at restoring my marriage.
Seems impossible...
I don't mean this to be rude or mean, but if a person can't figure out how to balance having fun with responsibility, then I can see why you called yourself a controlling "stick in the mud." Is it possible that your wife became "bored" and wanted some excitement in her life to balance out the stress of working and having a new child?
One of the biggest mistakes we make is to stop having fun and laughter with our spouses and going out and having fun.....
I don't think it is in any way irresponsible to show your WS that you are enjoying life to the fullest.
Work hard, play hard. You CAN do both and be just as responsible as the person who sits home and fails to see that he or she is boring his spouse to death because of not enough fun, laughter and spontaneity in the relationship.
Women are attracted to men who know how to balance fun with responsibility and become bored with those who can't, don't or won't.
I agree. But the reason I stopped having fun and enjoying life was due to my W's affair.
Now, I would love to do certain things to make myself happier, but I can't because I have a divorce to pay for, a S to take care of by myself, and work responsibilities.
Until this is D is final she will still be keeping me from living life to the fullest.
