Thanks for stopping by, I guess after awhile everything blends together. I am taking that by your post you mean that I should still focus on me and getting the finanncial side taken care of? I feel somewhat at peace when she is not in the house because I can relax, and don't have to analyze my responses to her. The fact that I am taking over the house has given me some direction because I am looking forward to doing some work on it. I was getting a little freaked out about where I was going to live. I was also feeling, that it was her walking out of the marriage, why do I have to leave?
I have spoken to a lawyer and know my rights, which has helped take the mystery out of it. My W was threatening a bunch of ridiculous stuff that didn't make sense.
I have been praying daily about this and the people on this website I think it has helped me not go crazy!
Finally, my W called me three times yesterday to see if I got financing, when I told her I did, she didn't say lets call the lawyer and sign the papers, (not trying to figure her out) I expected a call today re: lawyer and the legal separation, but so far nothing. I am relucatant to call her about it. My gut feeling is that I should get it done so that she can't come back and ask for more stuff and money (and my pension). Even though it is a legal separation, it is not a divorce and we have to wait a year for that. I have to look at that as an opportunity because I am leaving the door open by being friendly and not creating a negative view of me. I want her to see the man that I am.
Cheers, Jeff
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
