I REALLY think that you ought to take your threads back to the NEWCOMERS forum. You aren't divorced yet and to me it sounds like you aren't quite sure what you ought to be doing. Over there you will get MUCH MORE action on your threads and advice on what you ought to do. I've said it several times now... I think you ought to get back to DB mode and try to save your marriage. There isn't much good that comes from divorce and to me I'm not hearing that you are so far gone that you couldn't save things. Please... consider this.
