Hi TxMom, it sounds like your emotions have calmed down today. That's good. I know you are on a wild roller coaster ride. It's all perfectly normal and totally expected. Don't be too hard on yourself.
Your H is the same way, one day he is amenable to being nice to you, the next he is bracing himself for a fight. But instead of mimicking his behavior, you can just chill out and detach from his negative energy. I find that as couples bond with each other, they are very aware of what the other one is feeling and there's a sense of reciprocal mimicking and empathy going on. It's very natural and it's what bonds us together. When one person is sad, the other person is sad as well and it just shows that we are close. But now is not the time to show anger or upset. I think you are slowly progressing to the next stage. The first stage of shock and feeling of abandonment is the worst but I can tell you when you move to the second stage, it will be much, much better. We will help you get there. Detaching is great because you will find a little bit of peace and happiness instead of hinging your emotions on your H. Have patience and we can help you get there.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
