Another Wife Hit By The Bomb #4

[Tawnya]

{{{Amy}}} Thank you for the hugs and glad you are doing better my friend You know..I thought about the sitch more last night while I was in bed and thought that I DO think his real problem is the "hello..reality..welcome to divorce" aspect of it..at first it was the $$ but mostly he talked about feeling cut out..so..in a way, not on purpose, I suppose that is what I did

{{{Tom}}} THANK you for the encouragement. That was really one of my "bones" I picked with him last night over the phone is his "extra money" he is setting aside for "him"..that I would much rather have made this decision together and that his "extra money" would have made a GREAT downpayment or whatever on a car for our daughter..but since he was chosing to do what he wanted with "his money" ..I was chosing something to do with "this money"..

When you asked how much involvement he has in the day to day stuff..I am assuming you don't mean money..just more does he do stuff..NO..that's also something we talked about..that, not only is he working all of this overtime for money WE (me and our kids) won't see that we also don't see HIM because of it..and I said, so the kids lose out twice really..before the sitch he did more around the house, taking out the trash, cleaning up after the dog, feeding the dog, cleaning out the litter boxes for the cats, etc..but, since this sitch and that's he's gone so much, I do all of that now..he leaves at 7 a.m. and usually doesn't get home until at least 9 p.m. or later..so doesn't leave much for him to do in the day to day..

{{{Beth}}} Thank you for your hugs and support..I really appreciate it Unfortunately, my hub has always been a "yeller" when he's angry..he has a lot of "baggage" from his childhood and his dad was alcoholic and would "beat or yell" when he was mad..so it's something I'm USE to..the yelling..it's funny tho that, even a bit before our sitch, but now especially because of it..I am more "stand up to it" about it, like on the phone I told him to get it all out because I was NOT going to be yelled at anymore and/or at home..

Ugh..couldn't sleep for a while last night and then woke up around 5 a.m. and had trouble sleeping..funny enough, when you HAVE to get up (like now) is when I could still totally be sleeping LOL!! Oh well..

Off to work for a bit..

Tawnya