it is all in the timing on this one. I would say that you have to use a bunch of discretion. As with anything in DB'ing, if there is pressure involved, in other words forcibly re-directing things according to only your needs, then you are in the wrong and need to bring your self to a stop. Or else bad things will worsen.
So, not that R talks should be considered "plague-like" , cuz their not. But, you gotta both be nearly reading from the "same sheet of music". So in the early going it is very detrimental.
There is my hearty contribution. Hope that gets things a movin on here. Bye and good tidings to all.
