I'm not sure what to say other than, in every single one of your posts, you mention something which sounds to me like your H is abusive. I dont mean NOW, as in, because he is in MLC, but that he is abusive. And you ignore your intuition, I can hear you doing it, making excuses. Its like he is emotionally cruel.
I can only say, I cant see how you two will have a healthy marriage until you face up to his taunting, abusive treatment of you and gets the help he clearly needs! Its like the big white elephant in the room.
I am sure you wont agree.. but, I'm just trying to hep here. You cant change others, but you can change yourself, maybe you should check your reactions to his passive aggressive bullying (although you did stand up to him over the ISP thing!). Think of it as 180s, or doing something different?
Other than that.. there are of course a tonne of positives, but he still has to go say he intended a 'lone wolf' christmas and that you will give him space.. I wonder if this isnt about control issues (see above about your H being abusive!) and manipulation.. as soon as you get comfortable/relaxed, he takes it away. And yet.. he wants you to wake up and be there and talk to him and cook him food and ...
Can I ask if you are having IC? It might be good to explain all of this to an outsider and get their perspective on the dynamics in your R ? Not in a dbing sense I mean.
Also.. you didnt do anything "wrong" as you said about the ISP thing and its completely unnacceptable for someone to get angry at you over that...you just made a simple mistake. You didnt murder anybody.
And this isnt a 2x4.. but I really am trying to help here! Maybe try IC...
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
