Yeah, that's the maddening part of all of this for so many LBS's: the WAS doesn't want to completely let go--only 90%! My C said it is like w's comfort zone is such that she wants contact but only at a certain distance, and with little/no commitment. On the other hand, the LBS is wanting to be closer, constantly held at bay. Sounds like the same thing with your X.
Good for you for focusing on being physically healthy and getting into shape! That can only be good for you no matter what.
