Patience is hard

[Puppy Dog Tails]

With a really good, pro-marriage MC and also most likely a good IC, preferably ones who have specific experience in dealing with infidelity issues.

[Br44]

SouthSideMac,

You might get more response if you start your own thread in the "Newcomers" section.

Good luck.

MC

[SouthSideMac]

thanks, not sure how this works.. first time poster

[Br44]

no problem... if you go to the "newcomers" section and click "New Topic" on the upper left of the message board. You can start your own topic.

Good luck.

[Br44]

Still haven't responded to W and here is what she just e-mailed me...

{H}-

If you don’t have my suit that is fine; I will look for it some more. If you do then I can just get it from you on Sunday when {S} is dropped off thank you.

{W}

[Br44]

Just got temporary child support and temporary attorney fee request in the mail from W's L. Court date set for March 27, 2009.

[Br44]

Had a good meeting w/ L yesterday to respond to some of W's requests.

I think she is currently in CA w/ OM on vacation. It was her weekend this weekend, but when I found out she was out of town I went and picked up S from daycare and had my mom watch him.

I then texted W to let her know that S was with my mom, and to call me to set up a time/location to exchange. She did call back and let me know that her step-dad would have to pick up S today. I said that isn't necessary and I will keep S until she is available. She said she would meet me at 5 p.m. at our normal location to exchange.

A little bit later I got a text saying that she is going to be out of town this weekend. And asked if I want S.

She then texted again a few minutes later saying I should have the first option to have S if she doesn't have him.

NO KIDDING!! But this would have never happened if I hadn't known what she was up to and that she was going to pretend she was actually around while in reality MIL and step-FIL would be taking care of MY S.

So... I get my S for a full week this week!

[garry1969]

My suggestion would be if you know she cant pick up son or is out of town. Get your child do no text her you got him or when to exchange keep him and let her call you and ask or say you got our son i will get him and so on. You know what I am getting at.Its when we tell them what we doing i think they have control over us and like the idea they can do what they want and we are here to wait it out.
Maybe tell her you rather tell her upfront if she cant be with son instead of lie about it. You dont mind your son staying with you its my child so I rather have you tell me the truth so I can spend quality time with my child and bond with him.
What do yo uthink about that?

[Br44]

I think you are right Garry. However, I have to think about what will happen when we go to court over custody of our son.

I also did not really want to let her know that I know she is in California. This should be good for me as once again she has chosen OM over spending time w/ her own S.

I gave her the opportunity to get caught up in lies, but she actually "sort-of" told the truth when I told her where S was and that we would exchange later.

I could have made this all blow up and created some drama by taking my S and not telling her - which is what I would have liked to do, but I have to think about what is the right thing to do.

[cotoffgard]

Hey MC!

Good for you for taking the high road! In the end, you get to spend some more quality time with your S and cached more fodder for primary custody! Win-win sitch, bro!