I promise that I'm a really loving sweet friendly happy person, not cold hearted that I might appear!! I'm definitely not as lovey dovey as I used to be with H - because I think that smothered him.... but I'm pretty warm and encouraging I think. And even though I've been tempted to tell him what I really think, so far everything has just been light and happy, so he doesnt know how upsetting his behaviour is. One good thing about not having any R talks thus far is that there are no regrets about things I've said!
Yes possibly he might be scared that he would fail again. But dont you think that is his issue to face alone? Something I cant fix for him. I promise I think I'm being safe for him to come back to.
Really if he didnt want to be married to me, and he just wants to have a 'friend with benefits' then his predicted behaviour would be exactly the same as he is currently exhibiting.
And I think he wants me more when he knows that he cant have me - so being nice and too warm isnt going to work either.
