Another Wife Hit By The Bomb #4

[AlexEN]

Sandi, Beth, Tanya,

Interestingly, during the brief time my wife was willing to look at this stuff, I asked her to read LL, which I found fascinating... Stuff I never even thought about. Sandi, you'll be surprised to hear that my primary LL was physical touch and secondary was words of affirmation. My wife's first was quality time and (distant second) was physical touch which was pretty close with gifts. So, when we communicated with each other with what we each wanted, it wasn't satisfying the other, yet we weren't "mature" enough or didn't know how to convey that what we were giving each other was what we wanted/needed not what the other wanted/needed. This book, along with the Gottman stuff, should almost be required reading for all couples getting married! If I'd known then what i know now, none of this ever would have happened. Now when kids are getting married, I try to get them something from the registry and anonymously give them these two books with a note that they should read them each and understand what they say. Another great read for me (and which I might add to the the list) is the one about if The Buddha Loved... but, it's much more existential.

-AlexEN