Hi Sam, yes I think you are doing a wonderful job at DBing. I don't know what else you could do to make it better. You are not complimenting her too much and yet you are doing it enough. I am afraid I'm not much help in the bedroom department since I had some of the same problems. I still do not know the answer.
Quote:
Do you think that's where the: "It really sucks that I cannot ML to you!" is coming from? She would like to get back to ML to me, but just doesn't know how to, just knows she doesn't want it to feel like "ML to her brother".
Yes I really do, Sam, b/c she does not want to feel like she is ML to her brother. She wants to feel passion! That is what I wanted so badly and I felt nothing. The only thing that I know to tell you is to keep being attractive and acting sexy. Be charming in everything and act sexy in everything. Sometimes after we've been married for several years, we seem to forget how to do that....lol. But, I fully understand not wanting the lights on while ML, etc. B/c I was there. Then when I lost weight.....I was like a different person. I was fun in the bedroom. I really wished there was a good therapist to help her....but I am so leary of them b/c it is very hard to find a "good" one. So many of them are sex perverts or messed up themselves....lol. It's not funny, I shouldn't laugh, but it is getting hard to be able to trust some professionals anymore. Has she ever said anything about getting counseling for her "issues"? I just be they all tie in together.
Anyway, continue doing what you are. Be careful not to discuss her to anyone b/c she will be very sensitive about that. Good job on the after shave. She may not say anything.....but she notices!!
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
