Wow, you all are troopers. Thank you so much for reading all of that and posting to me. I am looking forward to my coaching session as they always make me feel more positive.
NW, I hear you and I appreciate the concern but I am only focused on H's behavior, with this post, to the extent it helps me suss out "what works" so I can forget the rest as they say.
Also, I may have misunderstood something you were saying to me, but I am not considering emailing H for lunch. I have no plans to reach out to him at all for the time being.