That's exactly it, Mike... a tightrope...and being a tightrope walker isn't something a lot of us have ever prepared for...it's scary and confusing - and sometimes there are those gusts of wind that distract us from focusing on the safe ledge at the other end.
yep..it's a tight rope..you can either ride out the gusts or just step off.
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How does one keep from becoming a walk-away? I'm struggling with that one myself...
boy..this one is a hard one for me to tackle.. 1. Forgive yourself- 2. forgive them 3. no matter what they say or do focus on the good whether it is good they do now or good they have done. Focus on something they do that is positive. 4. never lose sight of the goal you set, whether it be reconciliation or making it through the day.. 5. IC-it's a must..this place is an awesome place but you need an IC you can talk to. 6. a strong will to succeed and a duck's back. 7. patience-more than you thought possible, more than you knew was in you. 8. The ability to never give up when all around you(family and friends) are begging you to quit. 9. never finding another shoulder to lean on through this..once you do, it's very easy to move on..IMO. 10. Luck- you better be a lucky bastid..because no matter how much you change luck plays a part..
and with that..I'm done..I'm sure there are more..
detachment is the best thing in the world and it's the worst thing in the world..it's an enigma wrapped in a riddle..and it's exactly like walking a tightrope..one wrong step and you're out of the game..as long as you stay balanced you're still in it..
