For the Guy with Kids and a WW Twenty One

[hopeful4her]

Beej, I truly believe that if your H knew about the affairs at the time, the dynamics of your situation would have been much different, but hopefully with the same result.

B is part of the 99% of people that know me. I mean in "real" life.

I don't think I meant to say that SHE keeps me sane. I think that I meant that its just nice to know that someone 'likes' you, if that makes sense. I realize that it makes no sense. Believe me, I know.




I had a busy day yesterday. After the library, met my folks at their house, then to aunt's house for get together. Nice to see a lot of family. A few hours there, then to my buds GF house to finish watching the Cowboy game. Left with about 7 minutes left in the game and ahead by 10.

I missed a lot, apparantly, because they ended up losing.

The wife called my cell while on the way to buds. She was just heading home. That was at like 5:30. I let D11 answer it as usual. After a short conversation, D11 is asking what time are they going to be back, do they need to be picked up. I told D11 to just give me the phone and I asked her what was up.

She starts to tell me where the neighbors took her, they went sight seeing, window shopping blah blah. She asked where we were and I told her what we had done for the day.

I was basically letting her know what a fun and busy day we had together. Without her.

She says, "Oh. Your not home?"

I told her I'll call her after the game and when we are headed home. After we left my buds house, I called to let her know that the kids wanted me to drop them off before I went home to get their things. She said okay. I drop them off and say hello. She is preparing some dinner and I let her know that I'll be back. We discuss the plan for her trip to Laredo. She decides right there that she'll just leave Tuesday morning, so she'll get the kids off to school. I just might need to pick up D7 from daycare.

"No use in me spending the night there. I don't have anywhere to stay and I can't afford a hotel."

I leave, go home, pack the girls stuff and come back. When I left, I noticed that she had a bag of charcoal and starter fluid sitting in the kitchen. By the time I got back and brought all the stuff inside, her neighbors were at the apartment sitting on the sofa eating, the kids were sitting eating too. The wife asked if I wanted to eat dinner with them. I pause, think and tell her,

"You have company. Ya'll eat."
"Its just the neighbors and were just going to watch a movie."
It sounded more like it would embarass her if I didn't stay. I told her ok. We served ourselves and we all sat in the living room and watched "Fred Claus". I sat next to D7 and we played throughout the movie. I didn't intend to stay too long. I met the neighbors and we all laughed at some parts. Everyone was sitting on the sofa except for the wife, D7 and I. We sat on the floor together.

At 8:30, I let D7 know that she had to take a shower, which started another power strugggle with her.

This time, I won. I got D7 in the shower. The wife started cleaning up dishes and picked up my plate for me. The guy neighbor walked out and went to their apartment. The girl sat and finished the movie. The kids went to the room to get on the computer. I start my goodbyes. I ask the wife if she has checked her car recently. She tells me that she just had her power steering fluid filled. I asked if 'someone' found a leak. She looked at me and just shrugged.
"All I know is that it was getting hard to turn the wheel." I asked her for her keys and she got them for me.

Her car was fine. Either OM did it for her or, I know that she has a small auto repair shop right next door to her work.

Now I'm shrugging MY shoulders.

I tell my kids goodbye and go over to the wife and tell her thanks for dinner and again, she gives me that slightly guilty look and tells me,

"Thanks. Have a goodnight".

And she didn't give me no groceries. Whats up with that?