I forgot to add that H also deposited the child support/alimony into our account and was going to give me the debit card yesterday so I can get groceries, etc. He lost the card. Forgot D's backpack last night (it was in a pile with the other stuff they had). I of course am not worried at all, said no problem it'll probably turn up by the time he drops the kids off tonight or he can give it to me Sunday. I think he is losing it even more than usual lately....I did open a new bank account just for me of course yesterday and gave him the routing info so he can deposit future $$ into that account. Karen
My H refuses to put anything directly into the bank, even tho we still have a joint account. So I have to find time to get to the bank--which is usually open exactly during the hours I work.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Well they will probably garnish his check and then you can set it up with the state to have it direct deposited. Be forewarned though you won't get the money just like you are used to, it takes the bureaucracy a while to get it to you too. You'll figure it out. You will be fine.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Well, I've got another part-time job. Did I tell you guys I was at the local downtown consignment shop in town, it has books and toys mostly. I asked the owner if she needed a part-time person and she had just had someone get fired recently so she is. She had me drop by today and I dropped off my resume and she hired me to start tomorrow. I told her yesterday I can do everything but create Excel spreadsheets! Just bringing it right out.
One slight problem may be that the owner turns out she is kinda nutty. She's been instutionalized she told me today and stuff like that, and I think she's still kind of mental problems from what she was saying today. Hopefully it'll be ok, but I think it might be exhausting to be around someone like that (I think maybe bipolar or something like that). So I've got mixed feelings about this... Karen
Congratulations, but eep! Hope she isn't a handful to work for. Maybe she is just an up front person and wanted to let you know? Hmmm..keep us posted. But in the meantime, congrats and hope you have a great first day!
Let us know how it went today. Hopefully you are having fun with the crazy lady! lol I would still follow up with the other job too, it would be nice to actually get paid with money.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Um, didn't work yesterday. I officially joined the church yesterday and became a member. Everyone after gave me a hug and said they thought I was already a member b/c I've been doing so much church stuff, more than most of the members I think. Well the service was all Christmas Carols and went on until after 12:30 (usually gets out around 12) and then we had to stand in front and hug everybody and get welcomed to the church. So I get home right before 1 and the owner called with a message that she needed to get the legal paperwork checked out before I start as she wanted to hire me as an independent contractor or something so I would have to pay taxes at the end of the year and she wouldn't have to. I said fine, that's ok with me, b/c I had no time to make lunch for us or change clothes anyway! Went to the L again today. Some friends from TKD found a mobile home 10 miles away in a really tiny town smaller than mine that would probably be $300 or so a month, but my L said I shouldn't take that. She wants me living in a regular small home. I'm supposed to keep track of all my bills and the receipts and prove to the judge that I do need more money and a car. So that cheers me up a little bit. Went to a church supper last night which was fun and awesome food as usual (those women can really cook)!!! And TKD tonight to get out some more of my stress should be good. Hope everyone's having a good day. Will try to check in later tonight!
Forgot to add I had another sleepless night Saturday. H has been taking the kids one night a week and I guess since his mom was in town he wanted to impress her with his parenting skills and kept them Saturday an extra night. No phone call or email to let me know. So I was still waiting for the kids to show up maybe late Saturday night and then just couldn't sleep b/c I was worried the kids might not be ok or something. If the situation had been reversed I would have called or emailed for sure so he wouldn't be worried. The L said I should tell him we are sticking to the original agreement of 1 night a week so I get both nights this week and not let him have them one night this weekend, but honestly the kids would be so upset I don't think I can do it b/c I think it would punish them more than H. I would rather let him have one night this week but maybe with the condition that if he in future takes them more than the one night, we can deduct that from the following week? And then hopefully he wouldn't do that? What do think about that idea? Karen
You are so incredibly kind and nice! I would have been yelling up a storm if he didn't bring them home when he was supposed to. I would have been fine with the extra night as long as I knew in advance. I mean stuff does happen.
I haven't played the "situation" like you suggested. For example, last Tuesday D10 had her concert. It was his choice to not take them but he wanted to take the girls to a skating event. I let him do it. No taking away days, I was just glad that he was spending time with them when he has them versus holed up in his room talking to skank while they are at his house!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I would have been fine with the extra night as long as I knew in advance. I mean stuff does happen.
kat
Exactly! Their grandma was in town and they see her prob. about every 5 years so if he had called or emailed (so I wouldn't worry) I would have been fine. But he does whatever he wants and doesn't give me the opportunity to agree or disagree, although I would have agreed for sure. Just like I would want him to do the same for me. With a normal person I would just ask him to email or call me when he wants to keep the kids an extra night, I mean a really normal person would prob. already know that! But I honestly am thinking if I let him know it bothered me and kept me up he would probably do that intentionally in the future. He's not normal (or at least I hope most normal people don't act like him.) I try to never let him know something bothers me (like the whistle and flute toy that I let him know were annoying and then he gives the kids new whistle & flute toys every week!!! Karen
Just bringing it right out.