FEEL BETTER SOON. You will need lots of energy this month!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Ok so h sent me a text and said I am pissed and sad I won't be coming over this evening. Now I had been sleeping and not feeling well and now I have to go deal with picking up d4. S7 is already home.
Lucky that I saw the text before D4 needs to be picked up. Then h called and said did you get my text. I said I just did, what's up. He proceeded to tell me about some co-worker that will be let go from his job soon that he works closely with.
My h said it's not fair and that he really is doing a good job. Now this guy has had this suspicion for awhile and has confided in my h. I told my h that I was sorry, but the writing is on the wall for this guy and don't try to defend him or my h will be the next to go.
That may sound harsh and cruel, but I have been in business for many years and have much experience with an action plan. His co-worker should best use his time to search for work, not fill his time working the plan since the end result will be termination anyway.
So I am feeling like crap and now I need to pick up d4 and fix dinner and get the kids to bed. I was really looking forward to h helping this evening. I needed that break, so I can rest.
I am also a bit suprised that h is taking this so hard. I don't know if the depression affects him more. He last words were I just can't let anyway see me in this mood and I just need to veg. Now it's not happening to my h, but he took this very personally since this coworker is someone he works with daily.
Can I say CRAP I have to deal with life tonight and feeling sick. When is it my turn? When can I just go veg? Ok I am pissed and sick. How's that!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Once I just wanted someone to take over all the responsibilities for me. The trash needs to be set out on the curb, baths need to be taken, food needs to be fixed, and now h is worrying about some guy that he has only worked with since Aug.
I maintained my composure with h, but look we have kids that need to be taken care of. We can't be wasting our time worrying about some coworker on an action plan and allowing it to affect our everyday life.
I am glad my h is showing compassion, but let's put this in perspective.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Ok so I threw some frozen chicken pieces in the oven, made a pot a rice, and steamed some peas. Just waiting for all to be done, then I will quick run and pick up D4. She just needs to be picked up by 6:30pm.
Then we will come back and eat and then the kids can hop in the shower and I am going to bed and NOT working out at 5am. I didn't today either.
S7 is asking where his dad is, I just said something came up with work and he won't be coming over this evening.
Trash is on the curb. I know I can do this. I just don't want to. I feel like I am the one that has to hold it all together with glue. Well the glue doesn't want to hold today.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Ahhh.........you are at a breaking point. I am sorry and I feel for you.
You need to get some much needed rest so you can feel better.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hi glam- Sorry you aren't feeling well. Your frustration with you H is understandable but could it be that what your H's co-worker is going through is bringing up your H's personal issues? Could he have fear of the same happening to him? Your H seems to have so much of his identity attached to his professional success. Do his actions make more sense if you think about it like that?
We want so much for someone to understand and support us. Your H seems to be able to do that momentarily but then something sets him back. Keep your focus on the progress you and your H have made and stay positive that the progess will continue. Remind yourself where you were a year ago and remember that even though things aren't perfect, you do have MANY blessings in your life.
