I think the key moment to look at was when he said the "M was no good and I wanted out". To me that says he doesn't have true feelings for OW. He just didn't know how to cope with his M and didn't know how to fix it so he thought this was his way of ending it because its EASIER that way. People always want the EASY way out. It's too HARD to stay and try to fix things. It takes TOO much EFFORT to make things work. This is the part that kills me because today's society has made it so EASY for people to get married and get divorces that no one takes marriage seriously anymore. Marriage is a unique, sacred, and blessed commitment that nowadays is more of a show instead of it being a once in a lifetime moment in a person's life.
Your H and my H saw cheating as a "way out". It was easier to hurt us in the worst way possible instead of standing up and saying there is something missing between us lets try and fix it.
It is truly a sad thing.......
Me35/H35 D16/SS14 M-1yr/known H 18yrs 1st Bomb: 4/26 OW35 2nd Bomb: 8/17 OW21 Moved out 8/21/08 H filed D on 9/9/08
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
