the kids. i have always helped her when she's asked or even offered to help with them. i don't think this detachment stuff applies to them, does it?
Just my $.02. No you are obviously not detaching from the kids. You are just detaching from her. Stop offering to help. You are a great dad - the girls know that. But think what happens when you text her about them. She blows you off. The whenever she contacts you about them - you come running. Take the message, read the text. Unless it's an emergency, stop coming to her rescue. It's her little way of keeping you there.
I wouldn't bring her one more cigarette. She has an OM. Let him do it. You don't have to be rude. I would just simply say - that I don't have time to do that today. And then change the subject to the girls. She doesn't have Neil to kick around here any more. She needs to know that and feel it.
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"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.
