Breakaway, it sounds like you handled a very difficult scary situation extremely well.
I too have noticed that my H blames everything/everyone except the reasonable solution.
& because I am comfortable using medication & going to doctors or emergency rooms, when necessary, at times I was called a hypochondriac.
Hugs to you. It sounds rough.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.