Your response to her regarding your Ipod rant should have been to

W: Hey Crafidi, your Ipod is to loud blah blah blah
C: Nod your head, smile and say sure"
W: It's giving me a headache turn it down
C: I can see where that might give you a headache (then either turn it down or go somewhere else in the house if you want to listen to it

Don't engage, validate what she is feeling, right or wrong and move along.

M:47
M:18
D16, S19
1st S 1/08-5/08
Reconciled/May 7, 2008
Left again Nov 9, 2009
I Filed: Nov 17, 2009
Final: April 14, 2010
EX walked away from kids too