I don't recognize her anymore

[princess_nic]

FIB,

I'm not angry at YOU - I'm annoyed at the spin you're putting on this, b/c you are making it about your R with her. She is your ex. That means that yes, you talk about Christmas gifts, but she can go out till she pleases. As can you (although you *choose* not to).

FIB, she's not your wife anymore. She is a co-parent. That's it.

I know it's hard to live with someone who is acting that way (i.e. unmarried), but the bright side is, at least you are aware of the situation! I lived with that for 3 years, with no idea what was going on.

I feel like you are looking for sympathy, but that you are acting in a way that is not the man I KNOW you can be. That's what I meant about not being able to be cuddly. You're past that. IMHO, it's not time for "oh poor fib, boo hoo".

It's the holidays. It's freakin' hard for EVERYONE, even people that are happily married.

I went to a Christmas concert last night w/ a friend who started to cry in the middle of it. This is her first holiday w/o her husband, who died in the spring of a freak virus. She was 6 months pregnant with their second child. They were so in love with each other, and with their toddler, and now she is raising two little ones alone, mourning a much-too-early death. He was a wonderful husband and father. Amazingly, her faith is still strong, and she believes that God has a plan for her.

I know you hurt and I'm not trying to diminish that. But this is REAL perspective

And I know you know this.

N