I really appreciate you giving us your perspective. It helps more than you can ever know!
I am guessing you think I am on the right track, too? Do you also agree with Phoenix and the other guys that I need to write DH and let him believe that the door is starting to close?
SMW
Absoloutely SMW. It is truly one of the reasons I opened my eyes. I had many reasons but that was the one that finally got me. Like I said, I would box some of his stuff up and move it to the garage and let him know. It was advice from this board of that to my wife that made her do it. Along with my Mother urging her. Reality sets in that she is not going to pain over me forever. You sart to see the strength and independence emerging. Up to that point she was begging and crying for me to come home. I always had the feeling that I could walk back at any moment. I think the closer he gets to coming home knowing that he has no cohesive family to go back to he will start to see the light. At least I pray he does. He has no clue at this point of what he is doing or what effect it is having on the kids. Or at least he is failing to see it, pushing it out of his head. If he knows you are a stronger person and that you really dont "need" him in that sense it will drive different thoughts into his head.
It is funny cause i nthe e-mails he sends he does not mention much or ask how you are. As like me it is because he knows your hurting over him and feels you will be there no matter what. As long as my wife cried and begged me I had the upper hand. Once that was removed I am the one that felt vulnerable and weak. I all of a sudden felt lonely.
