Just to chip on here… I did too much for my X- H when we first separated. I loaned his money, stored his belongings, I did his washing and ironing cos he didn’t have a washing machine .. he kept his key and came and went as he pleased. He helped himself to food, slept over when he wanted etc etc.
On reflection I did this more for ME than him. I wanted him to be dependant on me. I treated him like he was unable to do anything himself..
Since going dark… I have found that he can manage to do his own washing, he has managed his finances..not as well as he could be he is surviving; he puts in so much more effort to see our son and the time they spend together is quality time. I have also found that my X-H and I have become much more respectful to one another.
Nutty x
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
