I saw much of this happening with my children. D-13 told W she was happy another woman stole her husband in an act of defiance. S-3 told me this weekend that he was happy I was home because it would make his Mommy happy again. D-10 tried to play matchmaker the whole time but refused to even talk about or see the OW. I finally forced her one time to come over with me and she poured Pepsi on her white carpet. Played it as an accident but told W she did it on purpose. I realized they are the true innocent victims in this.
D-13 needs lots of work and individual attention from me. Her and Mom clash often and I have always been the one to calm her down or think things out before acting. the house was not in full blown caos but real close. I am having to work my way back into it but already there is a level of calm.
The wife has agreed to counseling after the first of the year. I am looking forward to it. I have not asked her to join me in church yet. I am trying to find my nitch first and then bring her along with me.
One draw for sure with me was OW had young son 10. one is easier than 3 and no toddler. A little more freedom sure seems inticing. I used the same termonology. I needed to make "myself" happy. Unfortunately it took time to see that my happiness caused everyone else to be unhappy.
Funny thing is that OW just started dating one of my friends I think. Same guy that was showing interest in my W. Not sure about this guy as a "friend". She was 12 yrs younger than me and he is 3 yrs older than me.
