That's exactly it, Mike... a tightrope...and being a tightrope walker isn't something a lot of us have ever prepared for...it's scary and confusing - and sometimes there are those gusts of wind that distract us from focusing on the safe ledge at the other end.
How does one keep from becoming a walk-away? I'm struggling with that one myself...
And, Tom, I think it's amazing how vigilant and compassionate you are...I admire your strength...and find strength in your strength.