You are doing right, I think, by continuing to tell her how good she looks, but if you can work it in occassionly, I would throw in that you have always thought she looked good b/c you were attracted to who she was on the inside as much if not more than the girl on the outside.
I try to do that when I can. On thanksgiving day she showed me her old driver's license with her pic of when she was heavier and said: Look how fat I was!! I told her I still think she looked pretty. However, it's been at least a couple of months since I last told her that I love her for what's inside of her more than the outside. I used to say that all the time when she was heavier, but I guess that never really sunk in.
I haven't really tried not to give her any compliments although I certainly don't do it every time I see her. I also try to give her compliments on things other than her appearance, like her art, her webwork and her designs. For the last couple of weeks she has made it a point to show me what she has made lately and it looks awesome as usual and so I tell her. She asked for comments on a newsletter that she did and I told her about a few things I would change and she replied: Good catch! Thanks for looking over it! I am seeing some improvement coming from those things, so I am keeping it up!
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She was already having a lot of issues about her body image and the fast weight loss has compounded those issued in my opinion.
Do you mean her body issues and her issues with our M?
About the meds: she's been off of it for about 4-5 weeks in Sept-Oct, but she has strated again at a lower dosage. She did not gain any weight back during that time tho. I think it just helped her persevere with what she wanted to achieve anyways. And yes, it's an everyday preventive medication and she says it does help prevent her migraines but she still has regular headaches.
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all you can do at this point is wait for her to try to work through a lot of stuff that she is going through.
Sounds like you are saying to stay the course with my current actions. So I am doing pretty good?
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I understand how she feels about "ML to her brother" and it is not something she wants to feel. It is very frustrating.
Do you think that's where the: "It really sucks that I cannot ML to you!" is coming from? She would like to get back to ML to me, but just doesn't know how to, just knows she doesn't want it to feel like "ML to her brother".
Thanks for stopping by again! BTW, I have been religiously applying your "nice smell" suggestion. On Sat, I was on my way to her shop and realized that I had forgotten to put on some aftershave, so I turned around and went back home to do that! LOL! I also burn scented candles in the house so that it smells nice in there when she comes by.
Also: what are your thoughts on this other guy friend that I was posting on above? Do you feel like that could have played or is still playing a role in all of this?
