Yes. I didn't mean to imply that you would be throwing the marriage away. My thought was that he was. Either way, living in unpleasantness is a drain on everyone. And mothers do lose themselves when the kids are growing up. I did too. And I remember being unhappy for a long time. I wish we had reached out for help sooner. It can really make a difference. However, it is not a magic bullet. It only works if both people are really willing to put forth the effort, and are willing to make changes in themselves. Fact is, few people are that willing. That's why there are so many divorces.
