Hey, marriedCrazy! Thanks for the response and support. It's so helpful.
I do agree about the marrying down assessment. I can sense it's been there for some time, and like your W, I certainly contributed to it. I tended to view him as an accessory, and I took jobs when i was being "funny" as well. So yes, that totally makes sense.
The OW is a waitress and 21. Young, immature, working a job that's light years away from mine - double his salary, big business mergers etc. I'm sure she's different from me in every possible way, and she' making him feel respected and like she's at/below his level.
What confuses me is how to fix things. Not sure what to do. I'm trying to just listen to God and follow what I feel is right, although sometimes that flies in the face of DBing and worries me.
Yeah, it makes sense about him not leaving except for the OW. It certainly had to be a catalyst for change, as it's not like there were other major triggers around the bomb drop. Also makes sense in terms of the confusion.
I'm just not sure what to do. Trying to make myself pause and listen....
Thanks for the congrats. Going to pray now and banish the ugly urge to compare myself to the OW. It's pointless, and I won't allow my PMA to degrade because of it.
