I doubt it's MLC.. He's too young for that. It could be Quarter Life Crisis if you believe in that stuff. But from what I've read, that mostly a searching for redefinition of career goals.
I go back to the comment I made several days ago when I mention that he probably feels that you married down. I've felt the same with my W; she is one of the most physically attractive specimens on the planet. She always carried an air of ego that was much larger than mine and she fed on the attention of other guys. Whenever we were out she would either flat out ignore me or make condescending and insulting comments under the guise of being funny. All that took a toll on my self-esteem, especially since I already felt that she married down. Her actions seeemingly added to my convictions.
The only thing is that in the beginning, she pursued me, incessantly. So I've been conflicted. Now, I've come to recognize that it's not about me; it's her.
But what I want you to know is that I have, over the course of the last 3 years, stood by her side. I have had a few opportunitites to step out of my M and I didn't because of my faith and my kids. But I know that I fought it internally, constantly battling between what I know is right and what I thought I might find that my W wasn't giving me. All I wanted was someone to respect me and feel like I was at their level. I know the feeling to leave and pursue someone else; I've felt it. I never acted upon. I have put myself in some situations that I'm not proud of; but I never crossed a physical line.
I believe that Gucci is right in the fact that men do lie while having A's, for that matter so do women. I also believe that he wouldn't be leaving if not for the OW. At least, that's how I feel as a man. Hence his oscillation for the job in Africa. If it were just an internal problem not connected to the OW; I think he'd made his mind up much sooner.
You are doing good..keep pressing.
Congratulations of being saved this weekend; it's a life changing transformation. God Bless You.
