2008 = Crazy Year (Twisted 20)

[Hope4us]

Bravo LIS. This was her explosion that you knew was coming. And like everyone else here, I heard all those things. Just ignore it. You are separating the crack addict from her drug.

You wrecked 2 marriages? Um....hello? Earth to WW....Heard the exact same thing.

Just continue to be consistent. Do your best DB now. Me thinks the fantasy is falling apart...

H4U,
Thanks for the thoughts - missed your comments earlier. Must have been some cross posting.

Will be interesting to see what happens when they finally get home. I have a busy work day tomorrow so will likely take a sleep aid tonight - may not hear them when they get in.

I can be consistent. Not sure if what I am doing is the best DB available, but I have definitely become comfortable with what I am doing.

As I think back over the convo, wish I could have recorded it. I particularly liked the "I will not be having an affair" comment. That did make me stand up straight.

It's winter here for sure now (snow came to stay) and although the Rocky Mountains are a ways off, it would be nice to see the avalanches start... (metaphorically speaking of course)

You know, it's kind of funny when they're spewing all that fog babble at you. I remember sitting on the couch doing everything I could to not laugh at her when she was going off after I told OMW. She was going to give me a chance, but oh boy, not now. And I heard that same thing, that I'd wrecked OM's marriage. I too wish I had a recording of it, because it was just so frickin out there, it was funny.

I would imagine that OM is telling your W that OMW didn't want to hear what you told her because he's trying his best to spin things to your W. My W's OM did the same things. For the next few days it was like every time she'd talk to OM, she'd come at me with more. Since she obviously couldn't think for herself, she had to have OM telling her what to say to me. And WE'RE the controlling ones?

Just ride it out. I guarantee their conversations are no longer hugs and kisses kinds of conversations. And that's when you win.

Don't know if your marriage will make it or not (just like mine), but there's a heck of a greater chance of it WITHOUT OM in the picture.

I think now it the time to hit her with the killer blow. The kids could put the nail in the affair coffin. If she comes back and continues spewing at you and your kids get ANY wind of it, it just might be the time for them to find out what's going on.

If you do tell them, remember, you still love their mother, she's not a bad person, just is doing a bad thing. And you're doing what you think is necessary to save your marriage and keep the family intact.

Chin UP LIS. You're doing GREAT!

[Tawnya]

{{{LIS}}} Dang..go to bed early last night and have to work all day and LOOK at what I missed!!!! WOW..I am surprised there wasn't a major explosion on the news your direction..she was really having a MOMENT wasn't she?? Geez..I also HAVE to love the "you wrecked 2 marriages" moment and how you didn't say what I would have said, "And your affair did WHAT to the marriages?" is beyond me I guess I'm just a bit more sarcastic than you

You did an amazing job, not that I'm surprised, and I"m glad you are doing and feeling at peace with yourself..I kinda wish I knew for sure who this OW is so that I could find her spouse..tho he already knows about the affair and my daughter knows, my son, 12, doesn't..but my hub already thinks my son is acting differently towards him..and my daughter gave him a bit of grief the other day too..so..welcome to reality baby

Tawnya

[carpenter54]

"my affair has nothing to do with the kids"......that's my favorite line so far
"I never lied/cheated on the kids".....another good one
" all everyone will see is my A being the reason for our D....not all the (insert crap here) that you did to me".....another favorite

Just puttin these up there...no real reason...

Musta been Tawnyas "blinders" comment..

[Tawnya]

LOL {{Carp}} Yep..fog and blinders, definitely NOT a good combo!

Tawnya

[lost_in_space]

Hi all. I am still here. Survived the homecoming.

All is quiet for now. W actually ended up making the flight home, so was there for a bit. About 1.5 hours with kids, 1 hour in bed, and other hour with K's, 2 hours with EGF (bet that was fun) and then to bed. She was a little talkative with K's, but not overly.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

PREDICTION:

At some point this week -- perhaps as soon as tomorrow -- she will be nice as hell to you.

Puppy

[lost_in_space]

Wow Puppy. I think I will say thanks for the warning, cuz I would have fallen over backwards if she actually says more than 10 words to me at a time.

And then what follows that? What battle gear do u think I should polish up? I'm sure you've told me before...

[Puppy Dog Tails]

And then what follows that?

More venom and spew. Then she'll be nice again, and even want to have sex with you. And then more spew. Lather, rinse, repeat.

Seriously.

Puppy

[lost_in_space]

Got it - more of the rollercoaster cuz to now it has been venom only (at least for the last 4 weeks).

Teflon suit at the ready.

I know each sitch has its peculiarities, but sounds like mine is fairly "to the script" as it were?

S/b more fun when W ultimately finds out her parents now know of the A.

[carpenter54]

PDT....sex too!!!
He's rite though....when she knows about you talkin to her Ps....just go to Starbucks!
I disagree with the sex part....unless like my W she trys the "your a sissy and I have ALL the power" sex thing.
Maybe a wager??? LOL that would be wrong!!